Is ‘silent communication’ the new way to get your needs met?

August 18, 2015 § Leave a comment


photo (4)

A recent article suggested that a woman’s most important negotiation tool (for successfully attaining a salary increase) is silence. I cannot stipulate as to whether this assertion is mere conjecture or if it’s based on the findings of extensive scientific research. What I have learnt (thanks to my late Father) is courage – plus that some things must be negotiated.

In preference to asking for whatever it is that is wanted, I observe women and girls adopt silence as a form of strategy. The frightening thing about this is in doing so, they’re actually giving up their voice. Additionally, in certain instances silence is construed as approval or complicity. As the pattern becomes ingrained it creates a legacy (which involves little resolve, empowerment or revolution) to be perpetuated. There is no eloquence or strength in purposely seeking disempowerment.

Whilst negotiation is not an art form women are taught or societally encouraged to embody, it can be learned and is essentially about having the courage to clearly stipulate your need(s) then focus on the attainment and reality of the goal. There may be some resistance however, remaining focussed on your objective is of the utmost importance.

I am far too empowered to employ silence as a form of warfare, stratagem or communication. I ASK for what I need and want, because I trust I will get it.

So, which do you prefer: ’silent’ or ‘verbal’ communication?


Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , ,

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

What’s this?

You are currently reading Is ‘silent communication’ the new way to get your needs met? at oftenimitated.


%d bloggers like this: